One rule of thumb that I newly learned few weeks ago is:
NEVER SHOW TO ANYBODY THAT YOU ARE ANGRY
But, it is natural that we become angry when somebody do bad thing to us, so how am i going to pretend that i am not angry? isn't that kind of hypocrete?
No, wait a minute, why do I suggest that we never show that we angry to somebody? because, first of all everybody have their own reason in everything that they do. According to Dr David from Charles Unversity, we should hold our emotion, not to directly judge people whenever they make mistakes. This is due to the fact that everybody will do the things that is right to their logical thinking, ethics, language or history. As an example, there is my lecturer who sometime do say 'stupid' in his sentences during his lecture. In some people it looks like he's a bad person. But as the person wh knew him, I understand that he don't intentionally says that as he is a Czech people and having low English fluency. In czech language, there is a word maybe describing a bad answer, but as he try to say it in english, the word he used is not appropriate.
Therefore, before we get angry with somebody, we should remember that, he is neither right nor wrong, but he is acting according to the best logical, environmental and historical ideas he had.
Why do I stress here that NEVER SHOW THAT WE ANGRY TO ANYBODY? From my observation of many people around me, the people who less interfere with other people's life are the people who is loved the most. Everybody will love him/her. This is most appropriate to the people who show very low emotion reaction. Neither being angry nor happy easily. In this kind of people, people would hardly judge wether he is angry or happy, get bored or excited. This kind of people I found in my community, and he is very cool.
The people who show bad faces to others will send message like 'I dont like you' or 'you are disgusting'. this will cause the people who see this face think that you hate him and will develop bad perception towards you. Usually sensitive people will show the extreme reaction in their faces. if they happy, they will be so much talking and jumping, and if they are sad then other reaction is easily detected in them by other people. Avoid this chareacteristic because other people will easily detect any changes in emotional state in this two very extreme emotion.
The range of emotion expression can be analogous to the narrow range numbers and broad range numbers. Cool people would have let say range from -10 to 10 while emotional people will have range from -100 to 100. let say, for other people to notice any changes in emotion is 50 point, then cool people would maximally show a decrease from 10 to -10 which means decrease of 20. this decrease is undetectable by other people. however, in emotional people, the decrease from +100 to +50 had probably cause other people to notice this changes. If other people notice this negative changes, then he could translate this decrease message as 'I don't like you' or 'get away' or 'get lost', even +50 means that the person is in happy state.
Be careful, changes in emotion is very dangerous as it could mistakenly cause others to think that you don't like them.
As a summary:
IF YOU ANGRY, DON'T SHOW THAT YOU SO ANGRY, AND IF YOU ARE HAPPY, DONT SHOW THAT YOU ARE SO HAPPY. REMEMBER, BEFORE YOU GET ANGRY, DO SOMETHING TO AVOID THEM LIKE RUN AWAY FROM HOME FOR A WHILE UNTIL AVERYTHING IS COOL AND CALM. =) piece
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